𝐊𝐢𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐒𝐭𝐮𝐟𝐟: 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐒𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐎𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐈𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐀𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐂𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐬⁣⁣

𝐊𝐢𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐒𝐭𝐮𝐟𝐟: 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐒𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐎𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐈𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐀𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐂𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐬⁣⁣

By Restita R. DeJesus⁣⁣

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Martial arts isn’t just about punches and kicks—it’s also about growing stronger on the inside. But sometimes, that inner strength gets tested when students feel impatient with themselves… or embarrassed when something doesn’t go perfectly in class.⁣⁣

And guess what? That’s totally okay.⁣⁣

Whether you're a kid in Mighty Mites class or an Adult in the Adults classes, wearing a brown belt or tying your white one for the first time, here’s some ways I've learned through the years, how to deal with those “uh-oh” feelings and keep moving forward like a champ.⁣

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Fable: The Caterpillar and the Sparrow

The Tale of the Caterpillar and the Sparrow 

Once, in the heart of an old forest, lived a caterpillar named Marrow. He was not the prettiest of caterpillars—his stripes were uneven, and he had once nibbled the wrong leaves, causing a few plants to wither. The other creatures whispered about him often:

 “That’s the one who ruined the elder thistle.” “He’s nothing but a crawling mistake.”

Marrow heard them. Every day. And even if he could not hear them, the others would tell other creatures about him 

But while they gossiped, Marrow worked. Quietly. Tirelessly. He listened to the rustle of the trees and followed the rhythm of change. One morning, he wrapped himself in a silky cocoon—not as an escape, but as a commitment.

Weeks passed. The forest barely noticed he was gone.

Then one morning, a vibrant butterfly emerged—wings gleaming with sapphire and ember hues, flight light as breath. Marrow had become something wondrous.

As he soared through the trees, a sparrow flew beside him. She looked closely and gasped.

 “Wait... aren’t you that caterpillar? The one who messed everything up?”

“I was,” Marrow replied, “but I’ve changed.”

The sparrow frowned. “Well, I remember what you were. Doesn’t matter what you look like now. I don’t trust you.”

And just like that, she darted away, chirping warnings to the other birds.

Marrow felt the sting—not in his wings, but in his heart. No matter how far he flew, shadows of his past trailed him. Some squirrels scurried when he landed. Some frogs scoffed behind lily pads.

But the flowers... oh, the flowers didn’t care.

They opened for him. 

He began to pollinate them, spreading life where there had been none. His flight helped the bees. His colors taught children insects that transformation was possible. The forest grew more vibrant.

Some still whispered. Some never forgave.

But the wise owl said one night:

 “Some creatures will always see you as the crawl, never the flight. But it’s not your job to stay grounded for their comfort.”

Marrow soared higher, and continued to help the forest thrive. 

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🌿 Moral of the Fable:

Some will trap you in the story of who you were, not who you’re becoming.

Fly anyway. Let them talk. Let those with eyes that can see, notice your change and your contributions. 

 

Progress, Not Perfection: Why Skill Comes with Time and Effort

At some point in your martial arts journey—or any journey, really—you’ll glance around and feel that creeping doubt whisper: “Am I good enough?”

Maybe your kicks don’t snap like your classmate’s. Maybe you blank on a kata you’ve done a hundred times. Maybe you’re just plain frustrated because improvement and belt promotion feels slow.

Yesterday, in Mighty Mites class, I overheard some of the boys in the boys break room (my office is not far from that break room). Names have been changed for privacy.

"I can't wait to get to Yellow belt! One more stripe until I get the rest of the yellow requirements!" Timmy said

"I'll never get to yellow belt. It's too hard and I forget a lot", Mitchie commented. The frustration in his voice was apparent.

"Well I come early before class, we can practice the strikes and stuff if you come early too", Timmy said.

"I can't..." Mitchie answered. Dad can only get me here right at 5 pm."

"Yeah, I'll ask my mom if I can get here 15 minutes early to practice too..." Avril chimed in.

"Me toooooooo I wanna come tooooo", Margaret's voice added from the girl's dressing room.

Mitchie's voice stayed dejected, "I'll never get good. Remembering stuff is hard".

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Here’s the truth Mitchie wasn't aware of yet: being "good" doesn’t matter as much as you think. What matters is showing up, trying, learning—and repeating that process over time. Being "good" happens gradually as your keep trying.

I went to the boys break room and asked if i could talk to them. I said "You know....in class, your personal best is enough. Even if it's not what you think is good or perfect. You don't have to be perfect on your first day, or even as a purple belt or higher. You'll make mistakes, and each time you make a mistake, you can learn from it a lot more than if you were just standing there worrying, right?"

"Yes, Sifu..." the boys answered.

"Mitchie? Did you hear me?" I asked.  "All I ask is that you try your best, and each time you try you'll get better. But you have to try to get better....even if you remember just one thing to practice at home.".

"I'll try...." Mitchie answered. His voice sounded a bit more positive.

"You'll get to yellow belt for sure when you keep trying! I know you will!" I added.

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🎯 Perfection is a Mirage

No one starts off a master. Black belts were once white belts who stumbled, doubted, and even wanted to quit. What sets them apart isn’t natural talent—it’s consistency.

Chasing perfection too early can paralyze progress. You get stuck trying to look polished rather than getting your reps in and building real skill. Remember: a little imperfect practice done often beats perfect practice that never happens.

🥋 Progress is Earned, Not Granted

In martial arts, every block, strike, and stance improves through repetition. That repetition, layered with mindful effort, is where transformation happens. You won’t always notice it day by day—but look back after a few months, and the progress is undeniable.

Think of your skill like planting bamboo. For a while, nothing seems to grow. Then—boom!—it shoots up rapidly. Why? Because it was growing roots the whole time.

So keep training. Your roots are forming.

🧠 Mindset Over Metrics

Don’t focus on whether you're "better" than others. Focus on whether you're better than yesterday's you. Are you more focused? More fluid? A bit more confident? Great—that’s progress.

When you replace “Am I good enough?” with “Am I putting in the work?”, you’ll start to see training as a path, not a performance.

💬 Encouragement from the Mat

At Seattle Wushu Center, we remind every student: You don’t have to be perfect—you just have to be present. We celebrate effort, not just excellence. Because growth is always worth more than giftedness.

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Final Word

Skill is not a gift—it’s a result. And it doesn’t arrive all at once. It arrives slowly, wrapped in sweat, effort, and the willingness to come back and try again.

So don’t worry about how good you are today. Just focus on showing up and being better than yesterday. That’s how warriors are made.

Owning Your Responsibility in Self-Defense and Protection

 

Owning Your Responsibility in Self-Defense and Protection

Restita DeJesus

When it comes to self-defense, there’s one truth that cuts through the noise: you are your first responder. Not the police, not the neighbor, not even your loyal German shepherd. You are.

While we’d all love to live in a world where danger is rare and people mean well, real-world experience—and martial arts training—teaches us that prevention, awareness, and preparation are non-negotiable responsibilities. Self-protection isn’t about paranoia. It’s about empowerment.

🥋 The Warrior’s Mindset: Why Responsibility is Key

At the heart of every martial art is one unshakable principle: accountability. Whether it’s mastering a form, doing self defense drills or controlling a technique—your safety and success lie in your own hands. That same mindset applies to life outside the dojo.  Recently, my Tai Chi instructor, Master Yijiao Hong told our class "You can practice for 30 years, but if you're not accountable (for skills), then it's nothing."

You cannot outsource your safety.
Yes, there are security systems and emergency services, but if something happens in the first 30 seconds—those seconds belong to you. The better prepared you are, the less likely you are to panic or become a victim.
As my Kajukenbo Instructor, GM Terry Faircloth told classes time and time again: "you don't need a black belt to protect yourself".

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🏡 Securing Your Castle: Smart Perimeter Protection

Whether you live in an apartment or a house, there are steps you can take to keep danger at bay—literally.

🔐 1. Start with Visibility

• Exterior lights should be motion-activated and cover entrances, driveways, and blind spots.

• Trim hedges and trees to eliminate hiding spots. Burglars love overgrown landscaping.

🚪 2. Fortify Entry Points

• Use solid-core doors with reinforced frames.

• Add deadbolts, door jammers, and security strike plates.

• Consider smart locks or video doorbells for monitoring and alerts.

🪟 3. Secure Windows

• Install pin locks or security film on ground-level windows.

• Consider window alarms or impact sensors—especially in hidden or shadowed areas.

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🧠 Everyday Self-Protection Habits That Matter

Self-protection is more than a self defense move or a concealed carry—it’s also how you live.

🧍‍♂️ 1. Walk Like You Belong

• Predators look for easy targets. Confidence deters threats.

• Make eye contact, walk tall, and stay aware of exits and surroundings.

📵 2. Ditch the Distractions

• Keep your head up, especially in parking lots, elevators, or transitional spaces.

• Your phone can wait. Your life cannot.

👀 3. Trust That Gut Feeling

• Your intuition evolved for survival. If a person or place feels off, trust it.

• Give yourself permission to say "no," leave, or create distance.

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🧰 Other Useful Tools and Mindsets

🛠️ Layers of Protection:

• Security cameras aren’t just for evidence—they’re a deterrent.

• Alarm systems are still relevant—go for monitored ones if possible.

• Dog bowls, beware of dog signs, or even a fake camera can give intruders second thoughts.

📚 Train the Mind, Not Just the Body:

• Run drills at home—what would you do if someone forced their way in? Where are your exits? What can you grab? The drills can be mental too, such as scanning for the exits and possible self defense tools while at a public venue (restaurant, theater, etc).

• Take classes that teach self defense. Realize that some of the techniques might seem gritty and violent....i.e. gouging the eyes, kicking knees, striking the throat, etc.  But, if someone is intent on causing you or your loved ones harm, these are necessary.  As my Kajukenbo teacher said "Any self defense situation is where someone chooses the time, the place and the opportunity to cause you harm". YOU have the choice to gain the skills to defend yourself and your loved ones.

• There are mixed opinions about weaponry, but if you choose to have firearms for home defense, get trained in it. Practice often. Be vigilant about locking up the weapons if there are children in the house, and know how to access the weapons in any scenario....in the dark, etc. 

☎️ Have an Emergency Plan:

• Create a code word with family or roommates.

• Practice home invasion scenarios just like fire drills—yes, even with kids.

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🧘‍♀️ Calm Is a Skill: Train It

All the gear in the world won’t help if you freeze under pressure. Martial arts builds that inner calm. Meditation helps, too. In a crisis, your breathing can be your weapon. Control your breath, control your actions, control your thoughts. Train it diligently.

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💬 Final Word from Sifu Restita:

Self-defense isn’t just about throwing punches or wielding a weapon—it’s about ownership. Your body, your space, your life—you’re responsible for protecting it.

And guess what? That’s not a burden. It’s a gift.
Because the more capable you are of protecting yourself, the less you have to live in fear.

So be aware. Be prepared. And most of all—be unapologetically ready.

𝐌𝐚𝐱𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠: 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐎𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐀𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐏𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞⁣

 

𝐌𝐚𝐱𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠:

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐎𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐀𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐏𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞⁣

At Seattle Wushu Center, we believe martial arts is more than just a set of techniques—it’s a personal journey. Whether you're training in traditional forms or modern applications, every class is an opportunity to sharpen not just your movements, but your mindset.⁣

If you want to elevate your practice—on and off the mat—here are eight core principles that have helped me along my martial arts journey, and still do.   

-Restita

𝟏. 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧⁣

Every time you bow in, ask yourself: What am I here to improve today? Whether it’s perfecting a stance or refining your energy flow through a form, your focus fuels your progress. It is common to come to class and just wait for it to start and follow along. Whatever is covered in class, use it to meet your intention.⁣

🔹 Sifu's tip: Before class begins, take 30 seconds to set one small goal. Even subtle shifts in intention can lead to big breakthroughs.⁣

𝟐. 𝐁𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐎𝐰𝐧 𝐌𝐢𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐫⁣

Instructors can point the way—but real mastery comes when you can observe yourself. Be your own toughest (and most compassionate) coach. Reflect on your practice. Watch your form. Make mental notes. Repeat.⁣

“𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘵 𝘸𝘦𝘢𝘱𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘴𝘵.”⁣

𝟑. 𝐅𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 o𝐧 𝐐𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐐𝐮𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲⁣

At Seattle Wushu Center, we say: Don’t count the reps—make the reps count. Doing 20 mindful kicks with proper alignment is far more valuable than 100 rushed ones.⁣

𝘗𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘪𝘴𝘦. 𝘚𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘱𝘦𝘯 the sword 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘨 it.⁣

𝟒. 𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐮⁣

Progress doesn’t always feel like progress. You’ll have highs, lows, and long stretches of “stuck.” That’s normal—and it’s where real transformation hides. Show up anyway. Keep breathing. Keep moving. To this day, I'm still hitting those plateaus where I feel almost stuck. But the more I study and share the knowledge, I feel the flow again. You'll hit many plateaus...and you'll get through them if you keep up the work.⁣

“𝘗𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘱𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺'𝘳𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.”⁣

𝟓. 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝⁣

Kajukenbo, Wushu, Eskrima, San Soo-whatever art you study here, and all martial arts—is as much internal as external. Practice focus. Meditate. Reflect. A clear, resilient mind is what gives your technique depth and presence.⁣

“𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘦𝘢𝘱𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘪𝘴𝘵—𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘰𝘤𝘶𝘴.”⁣

𝟔. 𝐁𝐞 𝐂𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬. 𝐀𝐬𝐤. 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐨𝐫𝐞.⁣

Your instructors are guides, not gatekeepers. Ask questions. Explore different interpretations. Martial arts grows when you stay curious, not complacent.⁣

𝘓𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘢𝘨𝘦, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯eve𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘭.⁣

𝟕. 𝐏𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐳𝐞 𝐑𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲⁣

In our classes, we don’t glorify burnout. Smart training includes rest. Hydrate. Stretch. Sleep. Rested bodies perform better—and are less prone to injury.⁣ When I was younger, I was one of those "No pain no gain" people. But I'm paying the price for it today with hip and knee issues.

𝘙𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮 𝘰𝘧 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵: 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘺, 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘵, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴.⁣

𝟖. 𝐊𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐖𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐭 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲⁣

Whether you’re brand new or a long-time student, stay humble yet stay hungry. The white belt mindset—open, curious, eager—is what carries you the farthest.⁣

“𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘰 𝘴𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘴 𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘴—𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘥𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘳 𝘭𝘢𝘺𝘦𝘳𝘴.”⁣

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💬 Final Word from Sifu Restita:⁣

Martial arts isn’t just something you do. It’s who you become. Every class is a chance to reconnect—with your discipline, Your lineage, your courage, and your purpose. So train with heart. Train with curiosity. And remember:⁣

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"𝘋𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘦—𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘷𝘰𝘭𝘷𝘦."⁣

— 𝘚𝘪𝘧𝘶 𝘙𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘢 𝘋𝘦𝘑𝘦𝘴𝘶𝘴⁣

The Donkey and the ladder

 

"𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐃𝐨𝐧𝐤𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐋𝐚𝐝𝐝𝐞𝐫"⁣

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In a sleepy little village nestled by the cliffs, there lived a donkey named Milo. Milo was clever, strong, and full of dreams—but also very good at doing as little as possible.⁣
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At the top of the nearby hill sat a golden bell tower, said to grant the loudest voice to those brave enough to climb it. Milo longed to reach the top, so that everyone in the village could hear his voice and know his worth.⁣
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“I would’ve climbed it already,” Milo sighed one day, “but ever since the old goat moved the ladder and never brought it back, I can’t. So, here I wait.”⁣
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“Why don’t you build another ladder?” asked a young mouse who overheard.⁣
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Milo blinked. “Well… it’s not my fault. The goat ruined everything. Plus, building things is hard. Dangerous, even. What if I fall? What if it doesn’t work?”⁣
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So Milo stayed put—days, then weeks, then seasons passed. He watched others climb using ropes, platforms, pulleys, and even stacked crates. Every time, Milo found something to blame: the goat, the hill, the weather, the village council, not having time, neighbors that didn't share their tools (although he never asked to borrow them).....He thought verything was everyone else's fault. After all, he was not to blame, in his eyes.⁣
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But one day, a blind turtle slowly crept by, dragging a handmade step stool, two boards, and a hammer in her shell. “𝘐 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱,” she said kindly, “𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘐’𝘥 𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘮𝘺 𝘴𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘭𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘢𝘥𝘥𝘦𝘳.”⁣
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And just like that, Milo’s excuses felt heavier than his hooves.⁣
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That night, he stayed awake staring at the tower. Then he sighed, dug in his hooves and began to build—it was messy and awkward—but he put in the effort, he worked.⁣
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Eventually, Milo stood at the top of the tower, breathless and stunned. Not just from the climb—but because for the first time, he realized it wasn’t the goat, or the hill, or fate.⁣

⁣ It was fear pretending to be logic, and comfort pretending to be wisdom. If he had not feared speaking up and asking to borrow materials.....if he had not refused to do the work....he would have found success much earlier.⁣
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𝐌𝐨𝐫𝐚𝐥:⁣
Sometimes the things making things difficult isn't what someone else did or the situation not being ideal — it's the work you were afraid to do and the effort you refused to put in.

Some Martial Arts Instructors Don’t Teach Children, And Why Others could beneft

 

Some Martial Arts Instructors Don’t Teach Children, 
And Why Others Could Benefit

Martial arts has long been celebrated as a path of discipline, respect, and personal growth. Yet, walk into any martial arts community gathering and ask about teaching children, and you’ll hear a wide range of opinions—from enthusiastic yeses to firm nos with crossed arms and arched eyebrows.

So why do some martial arts instructors shy away from teaching kids? And more importantly… what are they missing out on?

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The Hesitation: Why Some Instructors Say “No Thanks” to Kids’ Classes

Let’s be real—teaching kids is a whole different kind of Dojo experience. While adults generally show up for structure, philosophy, and physical improvement, What do young kids show up for? They might show up in Spider-Man pajamas, mid-sugar rush, with no idea why bowing in even matters.

Here are a few common reasons instructors may choose not to teach children:

• Discipline Challenges: Kids, especially younger ones, can be unpredictable, energetic, and easily distracted. Not every instructor feels equipped—or patient enough—to handle that. 

• Purist Philosophy: Some instructors believe martial arts should be reserved for those who can fully grasp its deeper meaning. They worry that simplifying things for children waters down the art. Some believe that teaching kids is a "sellout".

• Training Quality Concerns: There’s a fear that kids won’t take training seriously, or that their presence might lower the intensity or quality of the class environment, and  While instructors will indeed have kids that don't take the training seriously, let's remember that there are adults who don't as well....jumping around from style to syle or treating the classes as just something to do after work.   
  My goal each day is to train everyone with the same quality, regardless of if they take it seriously or not. After all, the ones that do take it seriously will benefit, and I hope that ones that don't, gain some type of skill to carry into their other endeavors.

• Lack of Experience or Curriculum: Let’s face it, teaching kids requires a different skillset, a different mode of communication, a different attitude, and often a revamping of the curriculum so that it is broken down for a child's learning curve. Some instructors may not feel prepared for that, saying "I'm not good with kids". 

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Why Teaching Kids is Actually a Hidden Gem: And it's not just for business

Despite the challenges, many instructors who do teach kids discover something surprising: it’s incredibly rewarding. And not just in a heartwarming way—though there’s plenty of that, too.

Benefits for Instructors:

• Legacy Building: Teaching kids allows instructors to pass down their knowledge and help shape the next generation of martial artists. That’s not just teaching—that’s creating a lineage. I started martial arts as a little girl, wit h the dream of having my own Dojo....and here I am now teaching people of all ages.

• Refined Teaching Skills: Do you want to learn how to teach with clarity and creativity? Try explaining stances to a six-year-old. You’ll become a better communicator across the board. You'll need to break down each movement in a clear and simple way, which deepens your own understanding of what you thought you mastered. Doing something and teaching something are two different skills.

• Business Sustainability: Let’s be real—kids’ classes can be the backbone of a martial arts school’s financial health. Teaching them creates community roots, long-term students and the support and assistance of the kid's parents.

• Creativity in curriculum: Instructors need not "gamify" every drill or exercise. Sure, you can make learning Kata fun by adding some fun games, but the trick is to balance the teaching of the "serious" material of your style, fostering children's confidence, and making class enjoyable.....without necessarily watering down the art. It takes practice and planning.

• Personal Fulfillment: Seeing a shy child gain confidence, or an ADHD child channel their energy into focus—that’s the kind of thing that keeps instructors inspired. I know that's what keeps me inspired.

Benefits for Kids:

• Discipline and Focus: Martial arts helps kids develop self-control, focus, and patience—skills that transfer straight to the classroom and beyond.

• Confidence and Self-Esteem: Whether it’s learning a new Kata, breaking their first board or earning a new belt, kids learn to believe in themselves through effort and progress.

• Respect and Responsibility: Bowing, listening to instructions, respecting themselves, their classmates and parents, helping peers—all fundamental parts of martial arts culture that help shape respectful behavior.

• Physical Fitness: Martial arts is a fun way to stay active, improve coordination, and build lifelong habits of movement.

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Final Thought

As martial arts instructors, we often say we’re not just teaching punches and kicks—we’re shaping lives. And that starts young.

“A great teacher doesn’t just teach skills—they shape character. When we teach a child, we plant the seeds of strength, respect, and resilience that will grow for a lifetime.”

So to the instructors on the fence—it's okay that you're on the fence, and you own the choice of incuding kids in your style or not.  However, it's good to remember that what you teach any student today… might be what changes the world tomorrow.....no matter what their age.

Meditation: Its not about "thinking of nothing"

 

When most people hear the word meditation, a very specific image often comes to mind: someone sitting cross-legged on a cushion, fingers pinched in a perfect mudra, softly chanting “Ohm” in a quiet room filled with incense. While that’s certainly one version of meditation, it’s far from the full story.

The truth is, meditation isn’t just about how you sit or what you chant—it’s about how you show up for yourself and the present moment. It’s not mystical or reserved for yogis on mountaintops. Meditation is practical, adaptable, and beneficial for people of all ages—including children.

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What Is Meditation, Really?

At its core, meditation is the practice of training your mind to be present, aware, and engaged. It’s like going to the gym, but instead of building biceps, you’re building mental clarity, emotional resilience, and calm. Many people feel that they can't do meditation because they "can't think of nothing". It's about being right there, right now. Find a thought about that bill you forgot to pay? Acknowledge it and continue without being hung up on it.

And it doesn’t have to be complicated.

Meditation can be:

• Sitting quietly and following your breath.

• Walking slowly and feeling the ground beneath your feet.

• Washing dishes with full attention to the sound and sensation of the water.

• Listening to music with complete focus—no phone, no distractions. Most people can do that, that's a form of meditation. Sometimes, I sit with my headphones and follow only one instrument as the music plays. It keeps me in the present moment while enjoying the rhythm of the music.

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Why Mindfulness Matters in Daily Life

Mindfulness—the practice of paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment—has proven mental and physical benefits:

• Reduced stress and anxiety: Mindfulness helps calm the nervous system and regulate emotional responses.

• Improved focus: Training your mind to return to the present sharpens attention over time.

• Better sleep: A quieter mind means less tossing and turning.

• Emotional regulation: With regular mindfulness practice, it becomes easier to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.

• More meaningful connections: Being present with others improves communication and deepens relationships.

These benefits apply to everyone—from busy parents and overworked professionals to energetic children and even teens navigating social pressures.  These skills allow us to stay on point with work, school, and everyday tasks such as driving, operating machinery, etc. Staying in the moment is so important when it comes to things like driving!

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Kids Can Meditate Too

Children are naturally curious and imaginative, making them perfect candidates for mindfulness—if it’s presented in a way they can understand. Meditation for kids can look like:

• Guided imagery: Visualizing a peaceful place or favorite animal.

• Mindful breathing with props: Watching a feather rise and fall on their breath.

• Mind jars: A glitter-filled jar they shake, then watch settle to represent their emotions calming down.

Even just a few minutes a day can help children manage emotions, build empathy, and improve concentration at school. At my school, our martial arts kids practice Mokuso for a couple minutes after each class. Sometimes we balance a beanbag on our heads to keep aware, sometimes listening for cars passing by and counting them, sometimes counting the ticking clock. After one class, a child muttered "Wow I didn't know there was a clock in the class!" To which i answered, "See? When we really pay attention, we notice things we never noticed before". 

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Not All Meditation Is Sitting

Here are a few meditation techniques that break away from the stereotype:

1. Walking Meditation Focus on the rhythm of your steps, the sensation of your feet touching the ground, and the sounds around you. Each step becomes a reminder: I am here.

2. Standing meditation Stand with feet shoulder width apart, allowing the arms to hand down at sides (beginners). Let the top of the head rise upward, focus your mind on your center of gravity, and "sit" into the legs. Feel the weight evenly on both feet and let go of body tension as you notice it.

3. Body Scan Lie down or sit comfortably. Bring awareness to each part of your body, starting from your toes to your head. This promotes relaxation and awareness of tension.

4. Breath Counting Inhale and exhale—count “one.” Continue up to ten, then start again. If your mind wanders (and it will), gently bring it back without judgment.

5. Mindful Eating Take a single bite of food. Chew slowly. Notice the flavor, texture, and aroma. This not only enhances enjoyment but helps prevent overeating.

6. Sound Meditation Sit quietly and listen: birds, a fan, distant voices. Try not to label the sounds—just hear them.

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A Practice for Real Life

Meditation doesn’t require robes, incense, or chanting. It only asks that you pay attention. Whether you’re sitting, walking, parenting, or washing dishes, mindfulness is about anchoring yourself to the here and now.

Just a few minutes a day can shift your mindset, calm your nerves to lessen stress, and bring clarity to the chaos of daily life.

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Closing Thought

"Mindfulness is the key to a happy and peaceful life. It is the miracle which can call back in a flash our dispersed mind and restore it to wholeness so that we can live each minute of life."
— Thich Nhat Hanh