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Wednesday, August 5, 2026

Cognitive Bias in Martial Arts: Why Even Good Martial Artists Can Be Wrong

 

Cognitive Bias in Martial Arts: Why Even Good Martial Artists Can Be Wrong

By Sifu Restita DeJesus

Martial artists often pride themselves on discipline, honesty, and the pursuit of truth. We spend years refining techniques, correcting mistakes, and testing our abilities. Ironically, one of the greatest obstacles to improvement isn't a lack of physical skill—it's something happening inside our own minds.

That obstacle is cognitive bias.

Cognitive bias refers to the mental shortcuts our brains use to make decisions quickly. While these shortcuts are useful in everyday life, they can also distort how we interpret evidence, evaluate training, judge other martial arts, and even assess our own abilities.

Understanding cognitive bias doesn't make us weaker. It makes us more objective, more adaptable, and ultimately better martial artists.


The Martial Artist's Blind Spot

Every martial artist has opinions.

"This style is superior."

"That technique would never work."

"Our lineage is the most authentic."

"I know this works because I've done it for thirty years."

Experience certainly matters—but experience alone doesn't make someone immune to bias.

In fact, the more invested we become in a particular system, instructor, or philosophy, the harder it can be to recognize when our own thinking has become selective.

The best martial artists aren't those who never make mistakes.

They're the ones willing to discover that they've been wrong.


Confirmation Bias

Perhaps the most common cognitive bias in martial arts is confirmation bias.

This is our tendency to notice evidence that supports what we already believe while ignoring evidence that contradicts it.

Imagine someone convinced that their style contains the "best" self-defense techniques.

When they see videos where those techniques succeed, they proudly share them.

When they see failures, they dismiss them:

  • "The practitioner wasn't trained well."
  • "That wasn't real."
  • "Our version is different."
  • "The opponent cheated."

Notice what happens.

Every success confirms the belief.

Every failure gets explained away.

The belief never has to change.


The Dunning-Kruger Effect

Another common bias is the Dunning-Kruger Effect.

People with limited knowledge often overestimate their understanding because they don't yet know what they don't know.

Martial arts social media has amplified this dramatically.

Someone may attend a seminar, watch twenty YouTube videos, spar for a few months, and suddenly begin declaring entire martial arts systems "useless."

Ironically, experienced instructors often sound less certain.

Why?

Because deeper knowledge reveals complexity.

The more you learn, the more you realize how much remains to be learned.


Survivorship Bias

We often remember spectacular successes while forgetting the many unseen failures.

For example:

"I knocked someone out once using this technique."

That's impressive. But how many times did it fail? How many variables existed? How many other techniques were attempted first?

Judging a system solely by its highlight reel is like judging a baseball player only by home run compilations.

You never see the strikeouts.


Authority Bias

Many martial artists assume something must be true because a famous master said it.

Respect for instructors is an important part of martial arts culture. Blind acceptance is not. Even legendary instructors disagree with one another.

Many great pioneers changed their methods throughout their lives after discovering better ways of doing things.

If the masters continued learning...Why shouldn't we?


The Sunk Cost Fallacy

Imagine spending twenty years practicing a particular method.

Someone presents compelling evidence that another approach solves certain problems more effectively.

Accepting that evidence may feel uncomfortable because it seems to diminish decades of work.

Instead, people often reject new information—not because it's wrong—but because admitting it would be emotionally expensive.

Time invested should never become a prison.

Your previous training isn't wasted if it becomes the foundation for continued growth.


Tribalism in Martial Arts

Humans naturally form tribes.

Karate.

Kung Fu.

Kajukenbo.

Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

Muay Thai.

Krav Maga.

Eskrima.

Etc.

The problem isn't belonging to a tribe.

The problem begins when loyalty replaces objectivity.

Suddenly every success by your group proves superiority.

Every success by another group becomes an exception.

Healthy pride becomes unhealthy certainty.


Social Media Makes Bias Worse

Algorithms reward confidence more than nuance.

Statements like:

"This is one hundred percent wrong."

"This technique never works."

"This style is fake."

...generate more engagement than:

"It depends."

"There are contexts where this works."

"Let's examine the variables."

Unfortunately, certainty often sounds more convincing than accuracy.

The loudest voice isn't always the wisest one.


Pressure Testing Without Ego

Good martial arts training should include opportunities to challenge assumptions.

Ask questions like:

  • Can this technique work against resistance?
  • Under what circumstances does it fail?
  • What adjustments improve success?
  • Does this apply equally to different body types, ages, and skill levels?
  • What happens if my opponent doesn't cooperate?

Testing should be viewed as learning—not as an attack on tradition.

A technique that survives honest testing becomes stronger.


Intellectual Humility Is a Martial Skill

One of the highest levels of martial arts isn't physical.

It's intellectual.

Being able to say:

"I was wrong."

"I hadn't considered that."

"That's a good point."

"I need to learn more."

Those aren't signs of weakness.

They're signs of confidence.

A fragile ego protects beliefs.

A strong martial artist tests them.


Final Thoughts

The goal of martial arts has never been to prove we're always right.

The goal is continual improvement.

Cognitive biases affect beginners, instructors, grandmasters, and world champions alike. None of us are exempt.

The question isn't whether we have biases. The question is whether we're willing to recognize them.

The next time you evaluate a technique, criticize another style, or defend your own, pause for a moment and ask yourself:

"Am I seeing reality... or am I simply seeing what I expected to see?"

That single question may improve your martial arts more than another thousand repetitions of the same technique.

Tuesday, August 26, 2025

Why are Some People Are So Easily Triggered and Offended?

 


Why Some People Are So Easily Triggered and Offended?

It’s something I’ve caught myself wondering lately: why are so many people walking around with their emotional “tripwires” set tighter than a mousetrap in a cheese factory? One stray word, a percieved act of disrespect, a casual difference of opinion—and suddenly, boom: offense detonates like a car alarm going off because a leaf brushed against the hood.

Of course, none of us are immune. We all have those hot buttons that set us off like a vending machine that ate our dollar. But there’s a difference between having a few triggers and living life like a walking fire alarm.

I've been doing a lot of self-work over the past year, and I've gotten to know my triggers and why they are set off......it does have a lot to do with unattended past situations. However in my work, I've learned a lot about myself and how to approach those triggers with an air of self-compassion, and i've learned a bit about the human psyche in general.  I've found, that we all carry something that can be a trigger(s). I've found that some are balanced and can navigate through triggers, and some need some balance.


The Root of the Trigger

I've learned that people often react strongly when their identity or ego feels threatened. Think of it like someone bumping the table where they’ve been carefully balancing their Jenga tower of self-image. Even if it wasn’t intentional, those blocks are coming down—and they’re mad at whoever “caused” it.

Sometimes it’s about unhealed experiences. Past wounds get poked like a bruise you forgot was there. Suddenly, someone’s innocent comment or request to clean the kitchen feels like a karate chop to the soul.

And then, there’s the environment we live in. Social media practically hands out free megaphones to outrage. It’s like a stadium full of people ready to boo at the smallest foul—except nobody leaves the game, they just keep shouting until their vocal cords give out.


Offense vs. Accountability

Now, let’s be clear: sometimes being offended is valid. Some things should ruffle our feathers. But if every feather gets ruffled by every breeze, you stop being majestic and just look like a chicken in a wind tunnel!

When everything becomes a personal attack, the weight of actual accountability gets lost. It’s like crying “fire” every time someone lights a birthday candle—eventually, people stop taking the alarm seriously.  However if you bottle that up, don't take responsibility to either clear up the misunderstandings, don't communicate and let it all fester.....you might find yourself looking for exits so you don't have to deal with the junk anymore. Escaping through drugs, alcohol, dangerous new interests, and even infidelity, doesn't make your own issues go away. It just delays them for the next percieved offense.


A Path to Understanding

So, what can we do? Some things I've learned.....

  • Pause before reacting. Ask: am I upset about this moment, or am I still fighting with the ghost of an argument from 10 years ago?

  • Listen instead of leaping. Maybe they weren’t throwing shade at all—maybe their sense of humor just runs on dial-up while yours runs on fiber.

  • Recognize patterns. If you’re offended daily, it’s worth checking whether the world is actually that hostile—or if your “sensitivity meter” is calibrated like a smoke detector that panics at burnt toast. Some people will say "People suck", lumping all people in a negative light, when one person hit their nerve. The whole world isn't like that, and when people argue that it is, its definitely time for assistance in dealing with that.

  • Respond instead of react. A calm response often turns a potential fight into a simple misunderstanding—like realizing the “insult” was just us being mad at being corrected at something that we think we already know. 

  • Ask yourself: Is this really worth losing a job, a friendship, a relationship or colleague over? And if you think it is, what are you going to do when a similar thing happens again...and again?....and it will, if you don't address your triggers.


The Bigger Picture: Denial and self compassion

At the end of the day, offense is natural. But letting it rule us is like handing the steering wheel to the loudest backseat driver in your head. Imagine if, instead of bracing for the next trigger, we built enough resilience to engage, laugh, and even disagree without combusting.

Life will always have sharp edges. We can’t bubble-wrap the universe. But we can choose how to react to it. Give yourself a little Grace. Give yourself some compassion. 

  • "It's okay that i felt that way, but not okay to call my colleague a name just because they checked my work".
  • "It's okay that I felt disrespected, but I have to realize that not everyone say 'please' or 'thank you'". 
  • "It's okay to feel like the boss is being demanding, but I think I could have said something different rather than shouting as if to say 'you better respect me!"

Wednesday, August 13, 2025

More "things kids do in a martial arts class"


Today's Dojo Doozie, more "things kids do in martial arts class". 

When I was teaching at my previous location, my Tiny Tigers class often had kids doing the darndest things.

At one Tiny Tigers class, we all lined up and I asked the kids if all their kids belts were tied (they usually grabbed their belt tails and pulled sharply outward to show it was tied),  Gi neat (they'd pull down the bottom hems of their gi top to straighten it out) and hands washed (they usually knew to get hand sanitizer or wash hands before class).

 One kid, apparently forgot and literally SPIT into his hands, rubbed them together and announced "all clean!". ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

Tuesday, August 12, 2025

Are You Using the Discipline of Martial Arts Outside the Dojo?

 


Are You Using the Discipline of Martial Arts Outside the Dojo?


Martial arts training doesn’t end when you bow out at the end of class—it simply changes location. The discipline we develop on the training floor isn’t meant to stay there. It’s a tool for life.

Having taught martial arts for 43 years, I've seen what I call the "Eddie Haskell switchover", where people (mainly kids or teens, but the occasional adult as well) carry the greatest manners and work ethic in the Dojo, but not outside the Dojo.  

๐’๐จ๐ซ๐ญ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐จ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ-๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ๐ข๐œ ๐›๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐›๐ฃ๐ž๐œ๐ญ:

     ๐˜๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฌ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ง๐˜ข๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ข๐˜ณ ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ "๐˜Œ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ ๐˜๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ด๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ", ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ข ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ "๐˜“๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜‰๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ" ๐˜ต๐˜ท ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ง๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ 1950'๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ญ๐˜บ 1960'๐˜ด. ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ, ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜Œ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ ๐˜๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ญ, ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ข ๐˜ง๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด, ๐˜ž๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜Š๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ.  ๐˜ž๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜Š๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ'๐˜ด ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ž๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜บ, ๐˜Œ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜บ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฆ (๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜บ '๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฆ') ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ด.....๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ข ๐˜ต๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ-๐˜ง๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ซ๐˜ฆrk ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ. ๐˜ ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฎ "๐˜Œ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ ๐˜๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜Œ๐˜ง๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ต", ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต "๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜บ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ", ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ฉ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข๐˜ถ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ, ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ฑ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ฌ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด."


Think about it: In class, you follow structure, respect your instructor and peers, push through discomfort, and focus on the task at hand. But do those habits carry over when you’re at work, with your family, or even dealing with strangers? Do you get triggered when something doesn't go your way? Do you feel like violence when you feel slighted or disrespected? Are you rude to your parents or coworkers? Do you put in the practice outside of class? 

These are indicators of something you need to work on. The trick is taking the concepts of martial arts practice and applying it to everyday life. 

๐˜๐˜ต'๐˜ด ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜บ, ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ถ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ.

Self-discipline in martial arts means try to make the right choices when no one is looking. It’s trying to show patience when frustration rises, staying committed to your goals when distractions calls, and treating others with the respect you’d expect on the training floor. It's respecting the fact that the rest of the world will not think like you, act like you, or expect the same things as you. 

Plus....It's not judging people just because they don't act, think or do things like you do.

Unfortunately, there are those in the martial arts who are outwardly "Masters" yet are judgemental, overly opinionated, get upset when people don't agree with everything they say, and lash out when they get called out on their behavior.  Some will form cliques full of people with the same attitude, and will berate others who don't agree with them. 

I understand that we are all human and we all have the privilege to be however we want. ...but does this privilege mean we forget that Martial arts classes (and teaching martial arts) is also privilege? Just because people are "Masters", does it allow them to forget the discipline?

I will admit, I falter in many things, even on the Dojo floor.  However, I am trying to address my faults and shortcomings and improve the best that I can.  It can be difficult sometimes....It's a constant self awaress....much like the same "awareness of surroundings" that we as martial arts instructors often teach. If I always default to the "Gimme a break I'm human" but not do anything to self-improve, there's no progress. The trick is to not run to distractions to escape what you need to work on. Funny, though, that sometimes we separate the Martial from the personal.


Your time on the training floor is the rehearsal. The real test is how you live outside it.

Thursday, August 7, 2025

Focus, Kid Logic Style

 



In the late 1980's when I was teaching Butokukan Karate, I taught in several community centers. The classes were a mix of kids and adults, however one class was mainly kids between the ages of 7 and 13.

One day, I started the class with a short talk about the subject of "Kime", and simplifying the concept so the kids could understand.

I started with "Let's talk about "Kime".....Focus. Karate is about Focus".

And as the illustrated comic strip shows.....one girl raised her hand and asked "So if I focus hard enough, and want it hard enough, can I get out of cleaning my room?"  Her Mom covered her face and shook her head as the other parents giggled.

I was speechless for a moment! LOL!

I explained that certain things have to be done, to be part of a community....whether its the family community, the community at school, at Church, etc. Cleaning and keeping everyone's surroundings is part of it, among other things.

The little girl looked so disappointed that she didn't get the "Yes, focus and you won't have to do any chores" answer she was curious about. ๐Ÿ˜‚ But her Mom thanked me for driving home the point that chores in the household are important. 

Kime isn't just about Karate. When I was a kid I thought Kime was "focusing the Ki into the technique", "using kiai to help get power", etc etc. However as i continued to practice, I think i caught on.

When I started practicing Tai Chi, we learned that the second you will yourself to move from wuji (the stable "start position in a Tai Chi form) to the actual start of the form, that one moment "sparks" Tai Chi ......mind and body moving together, focused, keeping the intention, fixing your posture  etc etc.

That very moment you set the intention to do this move or that, is the spark of Yi (intention) that guides the energy of the movement and helps the balance of mind and body.

We learned that keeping that ongoing intention and focus was the practice, not just the mere movements of the form.  Through practice, getting the movements "correct" happen faster and more consistently while doing the form. (Yes, I know my Tai Chi colleagues might correct me in my short definition, but i'd like to keep this blog entry about the subject of Kime, not the vast subject of Tai Chi, so colleagues, please forgive my brevity.).

Kime can be in anything you do. Set the intention. Get yourself to pay attention to the steps to get to your goal, and act on it the best you can. With time, the Kime will be felt and seen. 

Tuesday, August 5, 2025

“Stuck in the Mud?” – 7 Ways to Overcome the Feeling of No Progress in Martial Arts


 

“Stuck in the Mud?” – 7 Ways to Overcome the Feeling of No Progress in Martial Arts

By Restita DeJesus


We’ve all been there.
The form feels clumsy.
The techniques don’t land right.
The progress you thought you were making suddenly feels like it’s vanished.

If you’ve ever muttered, “I feel like I’m not improving,” you’re not alone. Martial arts is not a straight path—it's a winding journey full of plateaus, setbacks, and moments where growth hides beneath the surface. But progress is still there, even when it doesn't feel like it.

All too often, we track progress based on the new techniques, that cool new jump kick, or a new throw. Sometimes, we might forget that a good teacher will teach us what we *need* instead of what we *want.

Here are 7 simple but powerful ways that i've learned through the years and have applied to my own training,  to shift your mindset and navigate those murky moments where you question yourself:


1. Track Small Wins—Not Just Big Milestones

You don’t need to earn a new belt or perfect a form to mark progress. Did your stance feel more solid today? Did you stay calm during sparring? Write it down..... Keeping a training journal helps you see how far you’ve come.

Progress isn’t always loud—it’s often quiet, consistent, and easy to overlook.


2. Ask for Feedback from Your Instructor

Sometimes we’re too close to our own progress to notice it. A fresh perspective from your instructor can reveal gains in timing, footwork, or attitude that you’ve dismissed or didn’t even notice. Even if it just a simple "Sifu, can you please look at my form to see what I need to work on?", feedback can ignite that fire again.

What feels stagnant to you might look like growth to someone else.


3. Change the Lens: Focus on the Process, Not the Outcome

Martial arts is a lifestyle, not a checklist. When we chase only the next belt, rank, or skill, we risk missing the beauty of daily discipline. Reframe your goals: Instead of “get faster,” try “move with more intention.”


4. Teach or Help Someone Else

You’d be surprised how much you know when you're explaining a concept to someone newer than you. Teaching solidifies your understanding and gives you a sense of purpose beyond self-comparison. Just be sure to get permission from your teacher first.

Helping others grow reveals how much you’ve grown.


5. Remember: Plateaus Are Normal—and Necessary

Growth isn’t linear. Sometimes your brain is quietly rewiring, even when your body feels stuck. These plateaus are not a failure—they're a pause before the next leap.

Trust the plateau. It’s part of the process.


6. Celebrate the Internal Wins

Not every victory is physical. Maybe you overcame self-doubt. Maybe you showed up even when motivation was low. Maybe you showed up even though your just "felt tired and didn't want to get up off the couch". That is progress. That is strength.

          Strength is not just the physical aspects.


7. Take a Breather—Then Return with Fresh Eyes

Sometimes you need a short break to restore perspective. Walk. Stretch. Breathe. Watch videos of your first classes and compare. When you come back, you’ll often notice growth you had forgotten.

           Step back and regroup. Remember where you are now compared to when you first joined.


Final Thought:

Feeling stuck is not the end of your martial arts journey—it’s a signal to reflect, reset, and recommit. Like muddy water, clarity comes when things settle. Give yourself the grace to keep going.

Because progress, like mastery, isn’t always visible right away. But it's always being built.


Train with intention. Trust the journey.
—Sifu Restita

Sunday, July 20, 2025

๐Š๐ข๐œ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  ๐“๐ก๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐“๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐’๐ญ๐ฎ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ: ๐‡๐จ๐ฐ ๐’๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐‚๐š๐ง ๐Ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ˆ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐„๐ฆ๐›๐š๐ซ๐ซ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐ข๐ง ๐Œ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐€๐ซ๐ญ๐ฌ ๐‚๐ฅ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ⁣⁣



๐Š๐ข๐œ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  ๐“๐ก๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐“๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐’๐ญ๐ฎ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ: ๐‡๐จ๐ฐ ๐’๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐‚๐š๐ง ๐Ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ˆ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐„๐ฆ๐›๐š๐ซ๐ซ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐ข๐ง ๐Œ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐€๐ซ๐ญ๐ฌ ๐‚๐ฅ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ⁣⁣

By Restita R. DeJesus⁣⁣

Martial arts isn’t just about punches and kicks—it’s also about growing stronger on the inside. But sometimes, that inner strength gets tested when students feel impatient with themselves… or embarrassed when something doesn’t go perfectly in class.⁣⁣

And guess what? That’s totally okay.⁣⁣

Whether you're a kid in Mighty Mites class or an Adult in the Adults classes, wearing a brown belt or tying your white one for the first time, here’s some ways I've learned through the years, how to deal with those “uh-oh” feelings and keep moving forward like a champ.⁣

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Monday, July 14, 2025

Fable: The Caterpillar and the Sparrow


The Tale of the Caterpillar and the Sparrow 

Once, in the heart of an old forest, lived a caterpillar named Marrow. He was not the prettiest of caterpillars—his stripes were uneven, and he had once nibbled the wrong leaves, causing a few plants to wither. The other creatures whispered about him often:

 “That’s the one who ruined the elder thistle.” “He’s nothing but a crawling mistake.”

Marrow heard them. Every day. And even if he could not hear them, the others would tell other creatures about him 

But while they gossiped, Marrow worked. Quietly. Tirelessly. He listened to the rustle of the trees and followed the rhythm of change. One morning, he wrapped himself in a silky cocoon—not as an escape, but as a commitment.

Weeks passed. The forest barely noticed he was gone.

Then one morning, a vibrant butterfly emerged—wings gleaming with sapphire and ember hues, flight light as breath. Marrow had become something wondrous.

As he soared through the trees, a sparrow flew beside him. She looked closely and gasped.

 “Wait... aren’t you that caterpillar? The one who messed everything up?”

“I was,” Marrow replied, “but I’ve changed.”

The sparrow frowned. “Well, I remember what you were. Doesn’t matter what you look like now. I don’t trust you.”

And just like that, she darted away, chirping warnings to the other birds.

Marrow felt the sting—not in his wings, but in his heart. No matter how far he flew, shadows of his past trailed him. Some squirrels scurried when he landed. Some frogs scoffed behind lily pads.

But the flowers... oh, the flowers didn’t care.

They opened for him. 

He began to pollinate them, spreading life where there had been none. His flight helped the bees. His colors taught children insects that transformation was possible. The forest grew more vibrant.

Some still whispered. Some never forgave.

But the wise owl said one night:

 “Some creatures will always see you as the crawl, never the flight. But it’s not your job to stay grounded for their comfort.”

Marrow soared higher, and continued to help the forest thrive. 
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๐ŸŒฟ Moral of the Fable:
Some will trap you in the story of who you were, not who you’re becoming.
Fly anyway. Let them talk. Let those with eyes that can see, notice your change and your contributions.